Future hasn't gone unnoticed
Published 12:08 am Wednesday, May 31, 2006
A gentleman told me last week he thought my wedding preparation articles were funny.
But not in the funny way I thought.
He thought it was funny that I was focusing on such small details, when I should really be thinking about the big picture.
However, while it may seem like my main focus is on the big event, I haven't let my future with The Fiance take a back burner.
I realize there are certain things we will have to work through. Such as, his procrastination with “projects.”
For example: I have known Fiance for more than a year, and since the day we met he has been working on remodeling his kitchen.
The kitchen itself isn't large, there's no excuse. But when I heard it took him nearly two years to paint the ceiling on his sun porch, I began to realize Fiance has a little bit of perfectionism in his bones, or worse, he just doesn't care to hurry.
However, I have found that if I present an ultimatum, The Fiance gets moving pretty quickly on projects.
Case in point. I told him I wouldn't visit him again and he couldn't see me if he didn't at least lay the tile on the floor.
When I arrived this weekend, not only had the tile been placed on the floor, but he had bought other material to finish the walls.
I told my mother last week things were going to have to change with the way things were going with the remodel.
She told me if I thought I could change him then I thought wrong.
Men, she said, will not change for anything.
It was at that moment I heard my father in the background release his frustration with my mother by using some choice words.
I decided it was time for me to hang up the phone. That is their battle.
I know marriage won't be fun all of the time. Living with someone, a boy nonetheless, won't be pretty.
I'm a neat freak, I don't like to watch sports 24/7 like he does, I like to spend at least one day of the weekend lounging on the couch uninterrupted, I don't like to eat sandwiches for breakfast, lunch and dinner and I line dry a majority of my shirts.
So, will marriage be a challenge? Yes. Will I back down from this challenge? No.
I hope I will only learn from my parents, who will be celebrating their 43rd anniversary Thursday, and hope some of the good stuff will rub off on me.
Mary-Allison Lancaster is the Managing Editor of The Brewton Standard. She can be reached by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org or by phone at 251.867.4876.