Look for love everywhere

Published 3:02 pm Monday, October 9, 2006

By Staff
Are you looking for love? You may be looking in all the wrong places. Forget the produce aisle at the grocery store. Forget the &#8220chick flick” section at the local movie rental house. Forget going to a social function. You may never find what some people call &#8220your soul mate” if those are the only places you look.
Lately I have seen some television commercials that tell what a wonderful thing it is to find a &#8220soul mate” on a website called eHarmony.
I've also heard radio ads for something called cupid.com. There are also websites called match.com and even some people who have praised myspace.com as the place where they found their true love.
I have heard of people getting in touch with folks in chat rooms while on the internet and finding out they had a lot in common. Although these ways of find one's life partner is not my idea of a perfect arrangement, I have heard of some that have worked out pretty good. Then there are those that I've heard didn't work out so well.
At any rate, finding one's &#8220perfect partner” is a fairy tale that doesn't come true. Really, even though you may love the man or woman you've been married to for 40 years, it's probably a pretty good bet that your life partner is anything but perfect.
I didn't use any of the web sites or internet services to find my life partner. I found him in high school. I knew who he was but we were just friends for a couple of years before we started dating.
By the time we started dating, I already knew his family, was friends with his friends, and even knew some personal stuff about him (he doesn't like rutabagas, but loves okra and tomatoes).
No he's not perfect. But my chances of having a pretty good match were awfully close. We lived in the same town, grew up with the same values and had a pretty good idea of what we wanted out of life.
When finding someone on the internet you take a chance of getting a Yankee, God forbid, that doesn't even know what okra is or has never even tasted grits. That alone would deem them as unsatisfactory in the search for a husband or wife. But, when using chat rooms and the like to find a boyfriend or girlfriend, you also don't know what kind of person they are or what their family background may be.
Don't get me wrong. As I said before, I have heard of relationships that work out quite nicely with a partner found on the internet or some such dating service. It's just not for me. Thank goodness I don't have to worry about that search anymore.
So, be sure you know where your looking when you go looking for love these days. It may not be a bad idea to take a slow stroll through the produce aisle on your next trip to the grocery store or even look at some action movie boxes at the local movie rental store. You may even want to attend a few church services to find an available person to consider if you need a date.
Be careful out there no matter where you look. Love is hard enough without extra problems.
Lisa Tindell is a news writer for The Brewton Standard. She can be reached at 867-4876 r by email at lisa.tindell@brewtonstandard.com.

Email newsletter signup